I remember being a lonely 18 year old searching for Mr. Right. I remember the ache to have a man hold me, protect me, love me and devote his life to me. I remember thinking that I would do anything to fill that insatiable need. I did everything short of praying for my knight in shining armor to show up on my doorstep. I was certain that the missing piece of my life’s puzzle was going to be found in the man of my dreams.
Nearly 14 years later I am happy, content and satisfied emotionally, physically, spiritually, sexually and relationally. Indeed, my needs were met by a man who has filled my life with the greatest security, intimacy and love imaginable. The man I met, however, was Jesus Christ. Because of Christ my needs were met, my life was changed and this month I celebrated my 6th wedding anniversary with my wife, Leslie.
Had same-sex marriage been legal in 1990 I am certain that I would have tested that option. I met men whom I wanted to “marry”. Yet, as I look back as a mature adult, I realize that I wasn’t searching for a man as much as I was searching for an answer, a drug if you will, to numb the pain and make me feel better about who I was. The law kept me from making one, if not many, huge mistakes. And while honoring and preserving the sanctity of heterosexual marriage is the bedrock of my opposition to redefining marriage to suit a few, I believe a positive bi-product of keeping same-sex marriage illegal is that it will save tens of thousands of hurting young people like me from the biggest mistakes of their lives: looking to man to meet a need that only God can meet.
I encourage you to take a stand for today’s gay youth by opposing same-sex marriage; they may not thank you today, but protecting them now provides them with a better chance of being around to thank you later.
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